Shabby Sketches #34: What I Have Learned in 2016

The beginning of the new year is a time for everyone to reflect on the past and take forward our learnings. Of course, some mistakes can’t be undone (Tr… vial or bigger ones ;))  but we remember so that we can cherish the good and learn from the bad:

1. Weight is very difficult to lose and too easy to gain – All the weight I had proudly lost in 2015 was gained back in 2016. So I am back to square one in the New Year and my first dinner of the year on 1st Jan was at the Cheesecake Factory. Two hours and two cheesecakes later, I can see the difficult road that lies ahead.

2. Most good things eventually come to an end – certain friendships, the carefree days of your youth, your favourite book/movie/manga/anime, a never-long-enough holiday, a plate of your favourite dish and many more things. But don’t worry too much because there is always something new around the corner. And you can always order a second Cheesecake when that first one is devoured.

Life is like a sushi conveyor belt – there’s always something new on the way!

3. You’ll always be to able to make a friend, no matter how improbable you think it is – I just started a new job a few months ago and I was convinced that I was too weird to have any friends in the office. But now, I do get along with everybody and I do have some amazing colleagues and friends that put up with me and my weirdness. For example, yesterday I was telling them about how the temperature outside an egg can determine the gender of the hatchling in the cases of alligators and certain other reptiles. My colleagues simply laughed at the fact. Or maybe they were laughing at me. 

You might think you are weird but you willll always be like somebody else. So you are nothing special but you will always have friends.

4. You can be surprised by what you are good at – I majored in Economics in college and now I am a Social Media Executive in an ad agency. I had no idea about media planning or paid advertising on social media up until a couple of months ago. But now I handle 15 brands and their social media and I think I do a pretty darn good job if you ask me. It is ironic though because I am extremely inactive on social myself and I recently just deactivated my Facebook account. The job also made me realize I have a sadisitic side – I secretly am delighted to troll people for a living through sponsored ads.

5. Parents have an amazing degree of patience – I have moved back in with them and the first couple of months were rough and difficult to adjust to but now, things are great again and I am extremely grateful to them. I am also extremely grateful for all the money I am saving on rent and utilities.

6. I also learnt that commitment is very hard… And I couldn’t keep up with blogging the last couple of months. But I am still going to try to post more regularly in 2017 and blog more than before! So Happy New Year everybody! 👏🎊🎉

Letting Go of Dreams

Today I let go of a dream.

I threw away a game that I bought many years ago. It is a really simple dominos game. Like many old board and card games I have possibly outgrown, I simply kept it. Let it collect dust in my cupboard and its components turn yellow.

Looking at the rotting thing and its other aging companions in my cupboard, I wondered last night why I ever kept them. I don’t think I was holding on to them. I was holding on to some dreams, hopes and wishes they represented.

I was holding to the dream that my mom and I could have a fun and playful relationship well into my 20s. I was holding onto the hope that one day my brother would play opposite me, battling out typical sibling rivalry through board games.

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The perfect boyfriend for my zodiac sign?!

I came across this really interesting article titled “The Perfect Boyfriend For Each Zodiac Sign“. Quite a self explanatory title. It discussed which other zodiac signs you should or should not be dating based on yours. Here’s a screenshot of mine, Aquarius. Continue reading

Embarrasment = Ostrich

We have all had those moments. You are so embarrassed that you want to transform into an ostrich and stick your head in the sand ignoring everything that happens on the surface regarding the human world. Unfortunately, we are not as blessed as ostriches and just have to endure the embarrassment. These are a few of my ostrich moments that have made me visibly cringe:

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Through the Camera Roll! #1

Ever look through your phone’s camera roll and think, WTF? I have recently and I am going to share those moments here. It is amazing to see what my week has been like just through photos. Disclaimer: These images were taken for fun or to share with friends over WhatsApp, they are far from professional. Here are some funny and strange photos I have found in my camera roll on my phone lately:

1. So I decided to create a tumblr to share all the random silly moments of my life in real-time. I know most people Continue reading

Where words fail, music speaks…

*This isn’t comedy or meant to be funny so if you are here to laugh or for something silly, check out another post :)*

“If a composer could say what he had to say in words he would not bother trying to say it in music.” – Gustav Mahler.

I couldn’t agree with Gustav Mahler’s words more. Within the quote, there is the question of using specific languages or arts to communicate feelings and thoughts. Since English is my first language, I am going to use it to provide examples. English is an impressive language with a great number of synonyms for each word, many of which have different connotative degrees of intensity. For example, the simple word “happy,” which everyone is familiar with, has the synonyms “glad,” “joyous,” “elated” and “ecstatic” and each one seems
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When my brother was diagnosed with autism…

*This isn’t comedy or meant to be funny so if you are here to laugh or for something silly, check out another post :)*

I was 10 years old and he was just 1 month shy of his 4th birthday. “He’s autistic,” the doctor said to my mother. Plainly and honestly, the doctor said something that changed my family’s lives forever. Till then, they stated late development disorder but when he was still not verbal at nearly 4, the diagnosis was inevitable. He didn’t walk until he was 2 and a half years old, had a capable voice but couldn’t articulate words and he couldn’t communicate verbally or otherwise.

What ensued after were a lot tears, anguish, anger and resentment. My mother cried for hours, days and weeks. My father couldn’t

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